How does it feel when you are told you are doing something wrong or can't do something? Be with that feeling for a moment. This is a similar feeling when your manager or boss does not see your value or appreciate what you have to offer your organization.
Whether you are being told you are doing something wrong, or you are not receiving the appreciation and value in your career, this can be frustrating.
Do you want to know the secret to solving this?
BE your own boss, and have an undeniable belief in yourself!!!! Yup, I said it.
Not having your value or contributions recognized in the workplace can be incredibly discouraging.
The secret solution? Take control of your narrative - Don't let someone else tell you what you are capable of – make yourself invaluable on YOUR terms; set out with confidence knowing no one can limit who YOU want to become.
Over the years, I have been in situations where people, who should recognize I am human, instead expected me to be impervious. But there's no need for that kind of unrealistic pressure - allowing yourself moments of vulnerability is perfectly healthy and normal!
I have even experienced individuals who have been intimidated by my value and what I have to offer that they have made up stories of throwing me under the bus to derail my mission and purpose. 100% non-truth stories. OUCH.
I am not telling you these stories for sympathy or to be a victim. I am telling you these stories so you know that there are people out there who can do this to YOU. Some people will purposely devalue you to make you feel small.
I have walked away from relationships and careers and started over on more than one occasion because I felt devalued.
When I was in the corporate finance world, my boss purposely cut my pay whenever I made a significant amount of money – while raising the salaries of other males on our team. At that time, I was the only female on the team.
This sent me a clear message: my boss didn't think I was worth what I earned, leaving me feeling devalued as a woman.
So, after years of the repeating cycle of pay cuts and my hard work and dedication weren't enough to make up for the prejudices or preconceived notions about me— it was time to rewrite my story into an empowering story.
I decided to take control of my own narrative— It wasn't easy as a single mother to consider this option. Still, with determination and courage, I walked away from those relationships and my job, started from scratch, left no remorse or regrets behind, and created a story of living life on my own terms.
The courageous decision has been empowering for me and incredibly rewarding. Since leaving that job behind, I have exceeded even beyond what was expected financially.
Fast forward several years later, and here I am: running a successful business doing something that genuinely makes me happy every single day. The best part is that my clients appreciate my services and the value it brings to their lives.
The truth is everyone deserves respect and kindness regardless of gender or race — nobody should ever make you feel small just because they "think" they can — always remember your value! You do not need validation to be who you are.
You are unique, and you are ENOUGH!
I have a unique story and am determined to help other women recognize their potential, allowing them to rewrite their stories and take control of their lives.
Every success story reminds me just how powerful we can be when we choose not to allow ourselves to be held back by other people's opinions about us. We are ultimately responsible for writing our own stories - filled with joy and success - regardless of obstacles along the way!
It can be scary to have the courage and confidence to take control of your narrative, but it is possible. Don't allow yourself to be held back by someone else's expectations or limited view of what you are capable of - always remember that YOU decide how far you go in life!
Take ownership of who you are and what you are capable of, and don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. And most importantly, trust in yourself and take pride in who YOU are!
If you are in a situation where it no longer serves, make a choice to do something different.
Are your beliefs running you right now? Is your mind chattering, saying things like, I could never do that or I do not know what to do or where to start? I am here to tell you, yes, you can. There is so much potential within you waiting to be released.
Have you ever had a desire for so much more? Listen to those inner feelings; they mean something.
There are five things most people (including your BOSS) will not tell you; profoundly, these are five things you need to know about yourself.
5 Things Most People Will Not Tell You
Your value and worth- Believe in yourself and your worthiness—you are enough! You can do anything you put your mind to with perseverance and dedication.
Appreciation: Don't get stuck on what you can't do. Look at what you CAN do, be grateful for it, and focus your attention there.
Recognition- There is power in your voice - don't be afraid to use it, and don't feel the need to stay silent when something needs to be said. Speak up and out!
Identity- Who you are and what you stand for is unique and important. Take ownership of your story, and never let anyone define it for you.
Future- You are in charge of your future. Believe in yourself and trust in your capabilities to take charge and write the story of your success.
These five things are essential for writing your narrative with confidence and courage. Start today by believing in yourself, speaking up for yourself, and taking action for something so much more.
Don't let anyone else dictate what you can or cannot do. Only you can take charge of your future. Make the decision today to listen to those inner feelings and make things happen, whatever that is for you. Your future -self will thank you for it.
Do not wait for these five things to be said before taking action on your future. You do not need validation to be who you truly are and do what you are passionate about. So stop waiting for permission, and start following your heart.
Encourage others...
Be that person that edifies other people and help in building them up. Tell them their value, appreciate them, recognize them, tell them who they are and the gifts you see in them, tell them they are in charge of their future, encourage them to pursue their dreams, and be a listening ear.
Everyone needs someone who will believe in them and show unconditional support. The world can always use more encouragers! So be that person who is a source of light and hope for others.
You can make someone's day, boost their confidence and self-esteem, and remind them just how special and valuable they are. Your words can have a lasting impact on another person's life.
They have a story that will inspire others and make a difference in other people's lives, and so do YOU! The inspiration and encouragement you bring to others will create a ripple effect.
Your future is in your hands. All you need to do is take the first step. It starts with self-belief, confidence, and courage- know that you are capable of rewriting your story and taking charge of your life. You are the author of your story, and you decide how your story will end!
Be proud of who you are, take ownership of your narrative, and create the life you want! It starts with YOU!
The 6 Step 'D" Formula action plan will assist you on your new journey.
6 Step "D" Formula Action Plan
Dig deep success comes from within
Determine what motivates you
Discover your story
Develop a new skill or nurture an existing one
Deliver and take action
Duplicate by taking the same concept and REPEAT
Take action - don't wait for the perfect opportunity. Taking small steps forward is better than staying in one place, waiting and wishing for something to happen without you taking the initiative.
I am no different than you are. Connect to your purpose, passion, and vision. Take a deep breath and believe in yourself. We live life and perform at a level where our belief system is.
Know that you have all the resources within yourself to create possibilities with intention and purpose. You can achieve anything if you stay focused on what matters most.
The truth is, you have not been holding your pen wrong your entire life. You have been holding your pen in such a profound way to prepare YOU for what is yet to come.
Good luck on your journey, and much success! Take this knowledge with you today to make positive changes in your life. You deserve it!
Be brave, be bold – believe in yourself!!!!
Trust in yourself; you have all the answers within.
Now go out there and make things happen!!! :)
If you want more information on building a SoulHeart business you love, send me a message. You have the power to create a life that is fulfilling and meaningful. Don't be afraid to dream big and reach for what you want in life—you have the potential to make it happen!
